I posted this quote on my facebook page yesterday: “You perfect what you rehearse, be careful of what you are habitually practicing.”
I was in church while I posted it. I had finished singing during praise and worship, I sat down and i scrolled down instagram for an update lol. I seen a picture of my dad on my cousin’s page. (I had taken note that his birthday was coming up a few days prior, but yesterday as I woke up, got dressed, went to church, and worshipped the date didn’t even cross my mind.) So I looked at the caption and thought “Oh! That’s right, today IS the 17th.”
I started to make a Happy Birthday post, because that is what i’ve been doing every year since he passed away and before. Along with the day he passed away, and Fathers Day, but then that is when I thought “You perfect what you rehearse, be careful of what you are habitually practicing.” So I came to the conclusion that it is perfectly ok to miss my father, and to specifically miss him on holidays. HOWEVER, to consciously and purposely make a point to remember and feel sad on that day would be to rehearse grief, and I am not interested in performing that in my everyday life. I would rather be so consumed in good things that I stumble across it, than to purpose in my heart and mind to be sad. I am NOT saying that making note of a missed loved one is unacceptable, this is just my personal example.
If you practice grief, you will perform grief. If you rehearse fear, you will perform fear. if you practice joy, you will perform joy. If you rehearse love, you will perform love.
So, what are you practicing that will show up in your daily performance?